Love is often an elusive thing, something that we pursue in different ways. They say men give love to get sex and women give sex to get love, I say both are futile attempts to arrive at a place called love. However, without experiencing Self love how can you find love some where else? How will you recognize something that is only a vague idea or memory from infancy?
We often pursue love as a feeling. This too is fraught with problems. The first being that Love is not initially a feeling. Love is an action, it is something you do it is an expression of maturity and an understanding of self, purpose and interconnectedness. The feeling that we equate with love is something that you experience after love is experienced it is a sense of joy, inner peace and yes pleasure that is felt. But the feeling is not the love and the love is not the feeling herein lies the rub.
We often experience things, perform rituals and practices without really knowing why we do them. When we seek love it is no different we are seeking that feeling that we associate with love rather than creating love within our selves. Like attracts like. If you don’t like the way you look, the way you sound, how you act, the way you smell? Then how can you expect someone else to like it much less love it. We become so focused on the physical we are duped into believing that the physical is what we are, when in reality we are so much more. The love that we must have for our Self comes from understanding and knowing Self, from understanding why we are doing what we are doing and what to do about the things we no longer want to nor need to do.
Love of self is an expression of spiritual maturity that enables us to give to our selves without conditions without strings without self denigration. When we can do this then we are ready to love another soul be it our children, our mates, our lovers, our friends, or our family.
Without self love we are destined to embroil one another in a desperate game of energy conquest, manipulation and mutual disrespect. With it the possibilities are limitless.